What does the medical community consider premature ejaculation? Simply put, the answer is complicated, because how long sex should last is in all ways subjective. Therefore, labeling a sexual experience as “not long enough” or “too long” is subjective to the two partners taking part in said experience. However, there are some key factors that can guide doctors to a diagnosis. While these diagnosese aren’t always accurate, they can shed some light on an otherwise hushed topic.
We should start off this discussion by keeping in mind that each sexual experience will vary. If the goal each time is a 30-minute passion-filled earth-shattering session, you and your partner will be disappointed. Although internet porn makes it seem normal, experiences like these are not common. In fact, daily sexual encounters like these, may be indicative of delayed ejaculation, another issue altogether.
Technically, premature ejaculation is a condition wherein a man cannot control his ejaculation for more than a short period of time at the onset of intercourse. Therefore, he orgams shortly before insertion or just thereaafter. This usually occurs with minimal stimulation, perhaps due to overexcitement. A short performance is considered one to three minutes. Whereas the overal male average is three to seven minutes. Yet, it is noteworthy that women usually take twice as long to orgasm, ranging anywhere from 10-15 minutes on average.
Whatever the average may be, the length of time that intercourse should last is a matter of taste for each couple. But sometimes it occurs where a woman habitually does not climax during penetrative sex. Such experiences could lead to embarrassment or displeasure for both parties. If this happens, then the situation can be labeled as premature ejaculation. Yes, the timeframe is not enough, the emotional element is key to a diagnosis.
For a man, experiences like these can lead to problems in a relationship and psychological issues. Namely, feelings of anxiety, guilt, depression, worthlessness, and low self-confidence. Yet, there are many causes for premature ejaculation. Most out of a man’s control. Some may be psychological, such as overexcitement; others may be medical.
Ultimately, there is no one deciding factor to writing off any given sexual encounter as premature ejaculation. Technically speaking, the matter is complex and involves many elements. Nevertheless, the condition is usually solvable! In the meantime, there are a variety of treatments available. Consider researching some, like trying certain exercise techniques, performance techniques, and even spending more time practicing. Afterall, what works for one person won’t necessarily work for another. That’s why it’s important to isolate your situation and never compare yourself to others. Lastly, talk to a doctor or urologist about your concerns.