Evidence shows that children of same-sex parents are being raised very well, as compared to children raised by opposite-sex parents. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) announced its approval of same-sex marriage. “Children thrive in families that are stable and that provide permanent security, and the way we do that is through marriage,” said Benjamin Siegel, who co-authored the policy statement. “The AAP believes there should be equal opportunity for every couple to access the economic stability and federal supports provided to opposite-sex married couples to raise children.” What are some reasons that are aligned with the belief that same-sex parents are doing an excellent job?
Same-Sex Parents Intentionally Have Kids
The frequent unplanned pregnancies experienced by opposite-sex parents are not in the mix with same-sex couples. Of course, not everyone who has a child in an unplanned way is doing poorly as a parent. Nevertheless, when same-sex couples plan to have children, a lot goes into their choice. They must first decide to have a child by what means. Thereafter they prepare by counting the cost, examining their motives and qualifications as parents. To that extent, planned-parenthood-parents tend to be more attentive, passionate and motivated about raising their children.
Same-Sex Parents Care for the Neediest Children
It is easy to see that needy parents themselves, tend to embrace some of the neediest children up for adoption. That is not to label gay parents as typically “needy,” Rather, we emphasize the fact that these parents are searching for a child for their home. Rarely do parents search for a child, instead, they traditionally conceive—albeit under unfavorable circumstances.
To that end, studies show that 60 percent of lesbian and gay parents who adopt do so across racial boundaries. This can make it easier for minority children to get out of the foster or orphan system. Again, some studies have shown that same-sex parents also go for older children. Adoption is much more difficult for kids who are older than 3. Not shockingly, a majority of those adopted are special needs children.
Same-Sex Parents Encourage Tolerance
Many children of same-sex parents say that they learned empathy and open-mindedness growing up. They were not taught to stereotype genders and thus were more accepting and tolerant of others due to of their upbringing.
Same-Sex Parents’ Children Do Well Academically
A review of research on same-sex parents and their children from 2010 reported that GPAs were up to par with kids of heterosexual couples. One study showed that boys of lesbian parents had a higher average GPA (2.9) compared to those of heterosexual parents (2.65). Teen girls of lesbian moms scored on average the same (2.8) as those with heterosexual parents (2.9).
Same-Sex Parents Raise Confident Children
How can an upbringing in an environment with gay or lesbian parents bring about confidence in kids? A study involving lesbian mothers with or without partners who intentionally had kids, not bringing them into the family from a previous heterosexual relationship, showed that they raised more confident kids than heterosexual parents. This was likely because of more involvement in their children’s lives. While we can say the same of a heterosexual single-mother, here we note that these children were fostered out of choice.