Statistically speaking, about one in eight couples have trouble conceiving. In the United States alone, that is about 561,000 couples! The staggering statistic can be an abstract thought. But if we put it into perspective, that is nearly half the population of Rhode Island! So, if you are dealing with infertility, know that you are not alone. Many issues arrive when infertility becomes a reality. To fully grasp the weight of infertility is impossible, except to personally experience it, but these are some areas of concerns.


Usually, a diagnosed woman begins taking medication a few days after the start of her next period. Then, the waiting begins. While this alone can be agony, the results can be even more disheartening. It can take several months, up to a year, for a woman to successfully conceive. Even after a successful conception, there are still many hurdles to overcome, including premature birth, complications, and congenital disabilities.

Adding to the mountain of stress can be contemporaries. Well-meaning friends, family, and one’s spouse—all are waiting too. As much as each one may try to be helpful, they can sometimes say the wrong thing. Couples may find themselves tenser than ever before, and as a result, their relationship may be in peril—a situation that highlights the cruciality of communication.

Disappointments and Setbacks

In-vitro fertilization (IVF) is the most successful and drastic fertility procedure. However, it is not at all a guarantee. Reports from the Centers for Disease Control show that each year roughly 40% of IVF attempts in those under the age of 35 who use their own fresh embryos resulted in a birth. But that outcome can be as low as 11% in couples ranging in age from 41 to 42!

A setback in this regard can be not only a significant financial blow but also devastatingly crushing emotionally. Waiting months to try a procedure like this and watching it not pan out can also be mentally challenging for both partners. Furthermore, setbacks for either partner in the testing phase can be overwhelming. Depression, anxiety, and isolation can all become a regular part of life.


Unfortunately, the psychological damage is only at the beginning of the storm. Doctors visits, medications, and follow-ups are costly. The medicines prescribed are usually not available in generic form. If not covered by insurance, the cost for these also skyrocket. What is more, the time needed for all of these visits requires taking time off from work.

Most surprising of all may be the actual procedures. Including IVF, adoption, and so on, the procedure is at the core of the solution, and is the most expensive! For example, on average, each attempt at in-vitro fertilization (IVF) can cost roughly $11,000, or more!

Routines and Regimens

Merely missing one dose of medication or taking it at the wrong time can be consequential. Because here, timing is everything. If a woman ignores her prescribed schedule, in the case of IVF, the eggs may not be ready for retrieval on time. Or she might not have her intrauterine insemination at the most opportune time.

For men, not making the necessary adjustments could cost their sperm. That includes lifestyle changes such as eating and drinking habits, exercise, drugs, and cigarettes. Activity is vital to increasing fertility. Even more, proper nutrition aids in sperm production, while illicit drugs and cigarettes can hinder it. Also, changing underwear types may be beneficial. Such an adjustment, although minor, can allow the testicles more temperature control, thereby increasing sperm production.

All this is to say that infertility is hard-hitting. Only the experience can impart the emotions and the pain associated with the suffering. What is more, silence on the matter has gone on long enough. Empathy, care, and all-around kindness are what anyone suffering from infertility needs.