When your significant other has her period, the last thing on your mind is sex. But should it be ruled out entirely? What do you do if you are in the mood? Finally, it is time to erase the stigma surrounding period sex. But before you jump into bed, here are a few things to consider. And if you still have reservations, these facts should ease your mind.
Fact 1: Easing Cramps and Stronger Orgasms
During her period, a woman is more sensitive, this we know. Most women experience a rush of hormones and physical changes, including cramps and bloating. With of all these unwelcomed changes, it is no wonder that women are frustrated. You would be too if your penis bled every month!
However, on average during her period, not only are a woman’s hormones wreaking havoc, which means that she may be more aroused, but her body is also more sensitive to touch in specific areas. So, a kiss, a touch, a gesture of sexiness—when done at the right time—could drive her wild.
Additionally, “the blood [during a woman’s period] makes for extra lubrication which can improve the way things feel and improve orgasm,” explains Jill Hechtman, MD, Board Certified OB/GYN and medical director of Tampa Obstetrics. Imagine your most intense orgasm—that time you were teased for an hour, or when you lasted the longest in bed. Now, apply that feeling to a woman’s orgasm. That is what it could be like for her. In fact, some women also experience the benefit of reduced cramps from such an orgasm.
Fact 2: The Possibility of Pregnancy
It is impossible to get pregnant when she is on her period, or so you may think. “A lot of people think that because [she’s] bleeding, they don’t need to worry about pregnancy or using protection, and while theoretically, that’s true, it isn’t always the case,” says Lauren Streicher, MD, associate clinical professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Northwestern University.
Yes, blood is leaving her body, and it will wash away with it whatever foreign substances there are. However—and this is a big however—sperm can continue living in a woman’s body for up to five days! So, if you have sex near the end of her period, she can still become pregnant slightly thereafter.
What is more, some women bleed during ovulation. So, what you think is her period, may, in fact, be her most fertile time. The point is, do not to use her period as contraception. The most effective contraceptives include the pill and condoms.
Fact 3: The Contraction of STDs
In theory, this can be true. Seemingly because STDs, like chlamydia and gonorrhea, are ascending infections, anything helping them travel could increase the likelihood of transmission. Thus, in theory, the flow of blood out of her uterus would carry out the infection with it. Still, no studies have backed this idea up, though. So, always use protection and be safe.
Fact 4: Reducing Blood Flow
There are simple ways to reduce blood flow. Including, a menstrual cup, a female condom, and a diaphragm. In fact, these are safe ways to inhibit blood flow during sex. That may be especially helpful if you get squeamish about blood, recommends Dr. Hechtman, mentioned earlier.
In the end, do not let messiness hold you back from what could be fantastic sex. One of the most common barriers couples face when considering period sex is just that: blood. But merely using a towel or an old blanket, to prop your partner up, not only makes her more comfortable but can also help manage blood flow.
Fact 5: Communicate
“Sometimes it’s the guy who’s turned off by it, sometimes it’s the woman who’s turned off by it, and sometimes it’s just one thinking that the other one is going to object,” says Dr. Streicher. But, the important thing is to be upfront about it. Communicate not only your fears, but also the possible benefits, the way it may feel, the extent you are both willing to go, and what possible toys you may want to use.
Be open about your expectations, and take it slow. Period sex may just be what is missing from your sex life. Or, it may not. You may never know unless you try it.